If you do not adjust your behavior to your favorite modality of his girlfriend, you can find a great difficulty in building an intimate relationship. Certainly not once have met someone with whom in no way you could get along. You had a feeling as if you were imparted to a totally different wavelength, and were able to imagine you as friends. Let's say you are a visual person and he was kinestetykiem. Every word he pronounced slowly and clearly, and between sentences he breaks every few seconds you very irritated. On the other hand you say you so quickly that he was not able to comprehend what you had in mind. This is an example of ineffective communication with kinestetykiem visual person. If your girlfriend on a date turns out to be kinestetykiem (see the repetition, how to recognize a favorite modality) and you are a visual person, you can find a situation described above. If it does not match up to her favorite modality you can lose a great girl, just because your internal information processing methods differ. What you can do to avoid it? At the beginning would be best to slow down to speak, gesticulate at the hips and use more kinesthetic predicates. Matching the other person does not mean that you have to lose their individuality and only allows the thread to build consensus between the two different worlds own - you and her.
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