Together with the time you spend with someone how you begin to better understand, better enter in contact, and slowly, unconsciously, you learn to adjust yourself. With the knowledge contained in this chapter, you shorten the emergence of knowledge and even the friendship of the months and years to hours and days, only through careful matching. This is the ability to build contact with another person - the alignment to its physiology, tone of voice and predicates. But remember to do it very carefully and subtly. If you followed the example, asthmatic cough instead to build a common understanding cause a stop on that you like. So will, when in one moment can match all the elements of your physiology and your friend will have the impression that he was mocking. Therefore, slowly and quietly start to resemble its caller (reflecting mirror). Pay attention to how it sits, or has a straight back, how fast and in what tone he says, and copy all of these elements. By doing this, or flexible enough to tune to the physiology of your caller, or change their physiology accordingly with the change of his. (For example, if your girlfriend you straighten up after a while, start slowly straighten.) Like any skill also requires effective matching exercises. Over the next few days, try to match people with whom you spend your time, because thanks to achieve excellence in matching up to your girlfriend. You will then do it unconsciously, so that achieve very high efficiency. You'll learn through this to gain the confidence and sympathy of girls during the first conversation, rather than days or weeks as it normally is działoby
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